What Maya Taught Me


Yesterday, many of us read the news of Maya Angelou’s passing. I’ve refrained from using the word ‘sad’ because of my belief in the afterlife. Also believing in that idea that Maya will guide and inspire us from her place in heaven.

Although not here in the physical form, it is her words that will live on. So, she will continue to live on; in our hearts and in spirit.

Maya has inspired many, myself include, with her words through poetry. I recall being introduced to poetry after reading one of her poems at school. Up until then I’d found poetry boring. I didn’t really get it. Just a mix, a jumble of words put together in a way that has no real meaning. But Maya’s poetry was different. Somehow it made sense. The words took on a whole new meaning.

Listening to her words as I read each poem, I learnt the value of looking beyond the surface and going beyond what I see/hear. The value of listening to each word. Listening with my heart, nor just my ears. It was then that meaning, hidden truth and wisdom emerged. Words had suddenly taken on a whole new meaning as I understood the beauty and power they could awaken. This was the beginning of my love affair with the written word. Although, it wasn’t until later in life that it all settled within me, making perfect, beautiful and complete sense.

So, I will leave you with my favourite quote from Maya. It strikes a cord with me for many reasons, sometimes these change depending on the situation or where I am at in my life. Today, it has meaning to me because although I cannot remember the words of the poem I read that day in school I have not forgotten how she (the poem and the words) made me feel.



3 Reasons Why We All Need to Have Healthy Boundaries in Love



You have met Mr or Mrs Right. For the first few weeks things are going swimmingly well. Ok, there are a few little niggles but you let it slide. Why? Well, it is early days and you do not want to ruin this perfect bubble of romantic bliss. But as the weeks progress, you both settle into the relationship. Those “little niggles” that you let slide have now become big niggles and they are really upsetting you. Where did it all go wrong? The answer is simple: You did not stick to your love boundaries.

It’s likely that many of you have not yet begun to consider what your boundaries are in love, believing the age-old saying “love has no boundaries”. There may be a variety of other reasons why you may not have set your boundaries in love, the most common being that: “He/She will think that I am bossy or controlling.” Setting boundaries is not about being bossy or controlling. But it is about empowering yourself, modelling to the other person how it is that you would like to be treated. In this light setting your own personal boundaries can be one of your most valuable assets in your relationship.

To understand the importance of love boundaries it may be helpful to consider the following scenario. Let’s say you are going on your first date with Mr or Mrs Right. They are late to meet you, leaving you waiting in the cold and rain. You tell them off in a jokey way, not wanting to ruin the evening. But by date 3 he/she is still leaving you waiting and before you know it you are 6 months into the relationship and still waiting. This time you are waiting for he or she to decide if they are ready to commit to a long-term relationship with you.

Before long you are making excuses for their behaviour until it all becomes too much and you decide to call it a day. You move on to the next one, but somehow history seems to repeat itself. They too leave you waiting; waiting by the phone for them to call, waiting for them to make a decision about they want……. STOP! What you have here is a relationship habit; A habit that you will keep repeating until you take responsibility and start setting clear boundaries for your romantic partnerships.

The good news is that relationship habits, those scenarios that you keep finding yourself in, are the best place to start when beginning the process of setting relationship boundaries. In identifying them you have to be honest and take a reflective look at past romantic partnerships to see where it has all gone wrong in the past. Being able to do this requires courage but once you have done it, you empower yourself to take responsibility for your actions, happiness and relationships. In doing this you also begin to recognize and accept that YOU are responsible for your happiness, nobody else. You begin to realize that you do not have to put up with any old rubbish and that you deserve to be happy in love.

Having boundaries is the easy bit. Sticking to your boundaries; well, that’s the hard bit and believe me once you have told the Universe what your boundaries are they will send potential partners, to test those boundaries. To test YOU! With this in mind it is important that you stick to those boundaries. No excuses about the other person being the first amazing guy/woman that you have met in ages. There is no time for excuses when setting and working within your own set of personal love boundaries. You have got to stick to the boundaries! Here are 3 reasons why it’s important to have boundaries and stick to them:

It creates balance in your relationship When you let your boundaries slip you are effectively allowing yourself to dance to the other person’s tune. You are doing things to keep the other person happy at the expense of your own happiness. Is this a balanced relationship? No, it’s not! It’s an unbalanced relationship with the spotlight firmly centred upon the happiness of one person and it’s not you. When you have boundaries you give balance to your relationship allowing both parties to enjoy the relationship as you both get what you want from one another.

You show the other person how you deserve to be treated All too often us women think that the man knows how we want to be treated and, if he doesn’t, then he bloody well should. But that’s not the case because one size fits all relationships don’t exist. We are all different. What works for one woman is a distraction and annoyance for another. When we have boundaries and learn to say ‘No!’ we send a clear message about what we will and will not put up with. In doing this we are showing the other person how it is we want and deserve to be treated.

It’s empowering When you know what you want and refuse to settle for anything less you feel empowered. What happens when you feel empowered? Well, you feel great and that energy radiates outward, touching every person you come into contact with. It is when you are in this state of mind and powerful place in your life that you attract great things and people into your life. Under the law of attraction: like attracts like. Positive, happy and loving people want to be around people who resonate at the same energy level. It is this type of partner and relationship that you want in your life, something very much unlike what you have had before.

In essence, setting personal boundaries in love is like running your own VIP club. There are certain boundaries that cannot be crossed and it’s up to you to eject those that choose to cross your boundaries.

At first setting boundaries in love is tricky. People who used to throw themselves at you, now begin backing off. As they back off you begin to feel as if may be this boundary setting isn’t all it is cracked up to be. It is often at this time that you may want to throw in the towel and revert to your old ways: Don’t do it! Instead persevere, safe in the knowledge that those who back away were not ready to enter your space and be part of your VIP club.

Before long the positive feelings begin to outweigh the negative and you’re likely to experience increased feelings of:









These positive feelings will radiate from you out to the Universe and you’ll find yourself attracting more of the same. You just got to be prepared to go through that icky, uncomfortable period first.

Although, boundaries in love are important you should remember that setting boundaries in other areas of lives is really important to. This could be with your friendships, family life or workplace. Each of these relationships are important and can have a positive or negative impact on our wellbeing, on a spiritual, emotional and physical level. So, get clear about how you want to be treated and start setting those boundaries.


This article has been adapted slightly from my original article, which can be read on the OM Times website.  Click here to read the original article.

Are you open and ready to receive?

Grounding is very important for this week ahead. Take time to ground yourself on a daily basis and, at another points throughout your day, if you feel a little ungrounded.

I am feeling this due to the energy of Mars and the Full Moon which has left many of us contemplating and pondering.

As the residual energy of the Mars and Full Moon lingers and fades, it is important to ground yourself, especially if you have been practising self-healing.

Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter – Lady Nada
The feeling I have is that the beginning of this week is about striking a balance between our male and female energies. This seems to link in well with the Mars energy which is more masculine and the Moon which is more feminine. In order to move more seamlessly through the week and clear the residual energy there is a need to balance the masculine and feminine within. The masculine energy which drives us to rush in, make quick decisions and take a leap of faith Vs the feminine energy which is more graceful, thoughtful and intuitive. Finding a balance between the two at the beginning of the week will enable us to make clearer decisions that come from a more authentic place. At the same time it will enhance our relationships with others, particularly the women in our lives, be them at work or home.

Persistence – Lugh
Those of us who have felt unsettled and as if we are going nowhere fast are now urged to be persistent, to not give up. By grounding ourselves and balancing our energy it is more likely that our persistence will be perceived in a more positive light by others. You know how it is when a persistent comes forward to you from a very aggressive or needy place. Although their words may not be aggressive or needy their energy can be felt. When our energy is balanced our persistence is less likely to be perceived as a threat or damn right annoying.

If there is something that you want to achieve or manifest do not give up. Be persistence and keep going for it.

Energy Healing – Merlin
Merlin is commonly known as a wizard. An Ascended Master who is said only comes to those who are truly ready to spark that magic that lies within. He will teach those who are ready how to work with this magic for the Highest Good. With this in mind I feel that this card is calling us to remember the importance of self care and healing in order to get in touch with the magic within, but also ignite that spark of Divinity that is needed to manifest our deepest desires.

It would also be a good time to clear the energy within your home, car and place of work, as well as the energy within. This I feel will aid you in making space for what it is that you want to attract into your life.


Personally, I feel that this is a week which I term The Dark before the Dawn. An awakening is occurring. “Imminent” is a word I am given so I feel blessings are imminent for those who are open and ready to receive.

Are you open to receiving? Are you ready to receive?


Prayer of Application to the Holy Spirit

HOLY SPIRIT who solves all problems, who lights all roads so that I can attain my goal. You who give me the divine gift to forgive and forget all evil against me and that in all instances of my life you are with me. I want in this short prayer to thank you for all things and to confirm once again that I never want to be separated from you, even and in spite of all material illusion. I want to be with you in eternal glory. thank you for your mercy toward me and mine.
– C

The person must say this prayer for three consecutive days.  After three days the favour requested will be granted even if it may appear difficult.  This prayer, including these instructions, must be published immediately after the favour is granted without mentioning the favour; only your initials should appear at the bottom.

Angel inspiration and guidance



Each week I draw 3 cards for guidance for the week ahead. More often than not I will use my Healing with the Angels Oracle card deck by Doreen Virtue. However, there are times that I’ll be drawn to use one of my other decks.

This week I have drawn the following cards:

  • Divine Guidance
  • Answered Prayer
  • Ideas & Inspiration

For me I get the feeling that these cards are guiding me to the importance of meditation, quiet time and grounding. All of these things help me with my connection to the Higher Realm and Divine Energies, making me a clear channel for their communication.

As a psychic clairvoyant, clairaudient and clairsentient I receive guidance from the energies in a variety of ways. Being grounded and making time for meditation makes it easier for me to receive Divine guidance.

Prayer is also important to me and over the years I have refined the way I pray, taking inspiration from Kyle Gray. I now pray from a place of faith and certainty, affirming that my prayers will be answered. That I will receive what I am asking for, if not better. I then allow myself to be guided by the energies around me. Once again, being a clear channel for this is essential to me. Bringing us back to the importance of grounding and meditation.

Ideas and inspiration come from a variety of places and faces for me. Making being in that state of awareness and place of being so important.

How do you receive guidance from the energies around you? Do you use tarot and Oracle cards to guide you? If so, do you have any tips to share? Please feel free to comment below.


Cleanse and clear meditation


There are times in all of our lives where we feel stressed, anxious and tired. Before discovering meditation I world have a melt down, turn to shopping, partying or boozing with my mates to numb myself from these negative feelings. For a moment I would experience peace, joy and contentment but these moments would fade quickly. It would be at these times that I would turn to prayer, which created space for me to cry and have a real outlet for the feelings that I’d been hiding from. However, I often felt I couldn’t “hear” the guidance from God and the Divine energies around me. This was until I discovered meditation.

Prayer was my outlet. My release. My petition to God but what I needed was to hear that guidance. Meditation enabled that to happen. Through meditation I gained quiet time. A time I could distance myself from the clutter in my mind, allowing what wasn’t immediately needed to simply filter through and out of me. This made space for the quiet whispering from God and the Divine energies to come through. It was here that true clarity, peace and insight came about.

It works for me but that isn’t to say it’s for everyone. However, I am happy to share with you a meditation I have used to cleanse and clear. Please feel free to comment and share this with others. However in doing so I ask that you reference it back to me on this blog page. Enjoy.

 The meditation

  • Take a few deep breaths. In through your nose and out through your mouth. You could do this in cycles of four and repeat three times. Eg: Inhale for four seconds, exhale for four seconds. Repeat this three times. This should help you to begin to feel calm and relax. I always affirm that I am a channel for love and light, for my protection.
  • Visualise a bright light above your head. The light from the Creator bask in this light for a moment or two. Feeling its warmth on your body.
  • See the light come down, pass through your crown and chakra. As it does so it cleanses and clears any dark energy. You may feel some emotions or have thoughts at this time. Allow them to come and go without judgement. It may be these are things that need to he released.
  • As the light comes down to your feet see it go down, down and down into Mother Earth’s core, taking with it any dark energy picked up in your auric field. Allow Mother Earth to transmute and recycle this without judgement.
  • Enjoy the feeling for as long as feelings necessary. Before allowing the light to rise up again through your body back up to the creator. Watch this light fade away but know that you can access it anytime. Rest assured that the light of the creator is present within you too.

I also meditate with crystals too. If you would like details about the crystals I use for different areas of my life please leave a comment below and I shall endeavour to respond as quickly as I can.

When fashion and spirituality go hand-in-hand

We often think of a spiritual practice as yoga, prayer, meditation, working with crystals/cards or some form of spiritual healing. It’s thought that we can only find peace or deepen our connection to our Higher selves through such practices. But, in my experience, this is not true.

On my journey I have found that each and everyone of the practices mentioned has supported me on my journey. Deepen my connection with God, the Ascended Masters and Angels. Enhancing my relationship with the real me. However, there have also been times on my journey where I have rejected each and everyone of those practices because I had perceived them not to be working. Equally there have been times when I have worked with these practices too much, moving away from other pastimes that would have served the same purpose or better.

Finding a balance when walking my spiritual path has been crucial in:

Staying on my path
Not rejecting it
Keeping grounded

In the early stages I would become frustrated that all of the healing work, prayers or meditation were “not working anymore”. Finding it hard to recognise or accept that the perceived obstacles, blocks, challenges and hurdles were part of the journey too. That they were opportunities for growth. In my frustration I would reject my spiritual practices. Only to come up back to them later on.

Over time I realised that there was a need to find balance. All the answers, all of the peace and love was not solely in that spiritual book or on that yoga mat. They were also in those hobbies and pastimes that are not so typically spiritual. I found that I could find peace and love in dance class, going to the cinema or in the dressing room at Topshop Sometimes I didn’t even have to buy that new dress because trying it on was enough. Being in that moment of feeling and looking a million dollars was enough. That moment would reignite within me something that I thought I’d lost but that was only hidden temporarily. What these pastimes did (and continue to do) was illuminate the real me, highlighting other hidden diamonds that had previously been buried within.

Having those pastimes I enjoyed outside of my spiritual practice further supported my connection to my Higher self. They also brought me inner peace, especially on those days where it wasn’t practical to get out my yoga mat or use my tarot/angel cards. These pastimes also kept me grounded in the “real world” as everyone knows it. For me that’s what spirituality has to be about. It has to be about living in the real world too, rather than floating on a spiritual bubble.

It’s tempting to live in a spiritual bubble. Although I lived there for a little while and I grew to hate it because it wasn’t all of who I am. Part of me loves the “real world” with the fashion, the dance classes and romantic movies. Rejecting these in favour of my more “spiritual” practices didn’t work for me. Participating in typical spiritual practices only, worked for a lot of the spiritual people I encountered on my journey but, not for me. That didn’t mean that I was (or am) less spiritual or that they were (or are) more so. It just means that we all found what works for us. Our own balance and that is just right.

It’s all about change


Many times when we are in a difficult or uncomfortable situation we focus on the negative. All those things that we don’t like about the situation or person flood our minds. We can list all the reasons that we don’t like it or them. Then we wonder why we are attract more of the same.

You don’t need me to tell you the laws of attraction. You know that like attracts like, regardless of it being positive or negative thoughts that we put out there, into the Universe. You also know that your thoughts carry energy. Not only does the energy carry outwards it also resides within.

Your negative thoughts regarding the situation or person become your dominant energy within you. Carrying around this negativity can leave you feeling:


The action that result from this often include:


Bitching / arguing

Taking a job just for the sake of it or just for the money



Do any of these feelings or actions resonate with you at this moment?

In my own experience I have found that what is required is more light. When there is light in a dark situation you see clearly, when you see clearly you can navigate toward the outcome that is for the Highest good. But this all begin with you. You have to change.

Changes requires conscious awareness. You need to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, words and actions. For me, the most important of these are thoughts and feelings, as I usually find that they determine my words and actions. Therefore, when I change my thoughts my feelings change. When I master the two I worry less about my words and actions being negative because when my thoughts and feelings come from a place of love and light so do my words and actions.

There will be times when others will misinterpret my words and actions. I’m sure this has happened to you too but this is okay. For if it truly is expresses from a place of love and light then your intention was good. However, maybe the other person was not in a place where they were ready to receive this. My advice: Don’t take it personally. Keep breathing love and light into the situation. But, I digress.

You may be in a job you have outgrown, a relationship which no longer fits or work with a whinging boss and you want out. You may feel there’s no way out but there is and it begins with you. Start thinking about the things that you can change that will bring a feeling of peace and serenity. For example, instead of thinking about what you hate about your job start thinking about the skills you’ve gained, the insights and experiences you can use in your next role. Rather than lamenting the possible end of your relationship think about the ways in which you’ve grown and the lessons you’ve learnt.

In essence it’s about changing your perspective on the situation and the person, rather than changing the situation or the person. Often I have found that the situation seems less bleak or the person, less annoying, because I am at peace from within. It is from this place of peace that I can hear the quiet whispers of the energies around me, guiding me towards what I ultimate desire. From this place I make better decisions, I see more opportunities and I am received better by other people. All in all, taking the action of action brings me in alignment with what I want. Bringing it closer, not further away.

So what are you going to change? Have you got a story about changing your thoughts and focus that you’d like to share? Do you have any tips that might help someone else? If you feel moved to share then I’d love to hear from you.

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My top tools for protecting your energy



I first came across this quote and poster on Facebook. The owner of a page I followed was opening up about her experience of being amongst crowds or big groups of people. The fact that it affected her on an energetic level. As I scrolled down I noticed people commenting that they too had the same or similar experiences.

The status and the comments took me back to my early teens and twenties. At that time I knew that I was psychic but I didn’t have a clue about clearing, grounding and protecting my energy. This all changed when I went on a psychic development course as I was introduces to a tool that would enable me to protect myself on an energetic level.

Prior to this I was frequently having headaches, experiencing dips in my energy, feeling tired and riding the waves of my emotions. The reason this was happening was down to the fact that I wasn’t clearing, grounding and protecting my energy. Instead I was frequently doing an energy exchange with energy vampires, as some people call them. Attracted to my light these people would literally drain my energy, leaving me with very little or their own lower energy. Looking back, I recall my teens and early twenties being a particularly rough time for me energetically. It was a time of bullying, upheaval and confusion.

By nature I’ve always been quite free spirited, happy, content and full of energy. I was the type of person who’d always bounce back with a positive and fearless attitude. With this in mind it’s no wonder that my energy was such a threatening delight to others. However, with certain friends and situations I would find that I would go from feeling positive and on top of the world to feeling like $#!t. In the meantime the other person felt better whilst I was left with a headache.

Although I could feel the shift I had no idea what was happening. Worst of all I just thought it was me and that I needed to get a grip. But this wasn’t entirely the case. What I needed was to cleanse, clear, ground and protect myself. Fast forward to the present day and I now have a selection of tools that support me in doing this. Some of this tools have been passed down by my spiritual teachers and friends. In many cases my guides and the Archangels have guided me in tailoring these tools to better suit me and my lifestyle.

Today, I will share with you two of the tools I use to protect myself energetically. The beauty of these tools is that they are quick and easy to do. After all, we are all living busy lives and there isn’t always the time to perform elaborate rituals.

Archangel Michaels cloak of protection


This is my favourite energy protection method because it’s time effective. I, like any other normal person, sometimes skip my daily practice. When I do this I usually know about later in the day as my energy dips, along with my mood. So I try not to let this happen. However, on the days when I need to rev up my protection, especially at work around the chronic complainers, I use this to protect my energy.

All I do is imagine Archangel Michael wrapping a cloak of protection around me. I see the cloak wrapped around me and I pull the hood over my head. I give thanks for the grounding and protection from lower energies and entities. And that is it.

In recent weeks I have found this to be effective and really comforting. It’s as if a wave of calm and peace comes over me in that moment. Leaving me feeling safe, grounded and protected.

Protection Bubble

I usually use this method when I have more time, really taking the time to visualise and state my intention. This method is one I tend to use after a big chakra/energetic clear out or after some self Angel Healing. Sometimes I also combine it with method number 2 for added protection.

  • Sit or lie down, taking deep breaths in through your nose and our through your mouth. As you do so see white light entering your body, whilst you allow yourself to relax fully.
  • Call on God and your guides, Archangels who work for God’s light only (or whoever you believe in). At this point I say a prayer of thanks – thanking them all for their love, guidance and protection. As well inviting them to walk with me today.
  • Visualise a bubble of protection all around you. This bubble is big and you can see out of it clearly. Affirm that this is your bubble of protection, protecting you from lower energies and entities.
  • Depending on the situation or persons I will be around that day I will add a mirror to my bubble. A mirror that will deflect the energy away from you to the universe for transmutation.
  • Sit in your bubble and see white light, positive energy coming towards you. Enjoy being filled with this energy and, when you are ready, open your eyes.

So, there you have it, 2 of my favourite tools for protecting my energy. Feel free to share these with friends, family and cyber mates. Try them out yourself and let me know how you get on. Incidentally, if you have any tools that you’d like to share then it would be great to hear from you. I’m always looking for new tools and practices to add to my spiritual bag.

Unapologetic authenticity

I recently came across a Gabrielle Bernstein lecture about Authentic Power. Apparently she discusses authenticity and releasing whatever interferes with your true confidence. I say apparently because I didn’t get round to watching it because, for some reason, I scrolled down to the comments section.

Briefly reading each one there was one that caught my eye. One that I read ever word of. This particular comment seemed to suggest that Gabrielle authenticity was masked or overshadowed by her appearance. According to this viewer there was a “mismatch” between her outer appearance and message about living authentically.

The comment really struck a cord with me. To be honest it really annoyed me. (There’s obviously some healing work that needs to be done here.) I think this was because I have lost count of the amount of times I have been judged and misjudged because of the way I look. The way that people, women in particular, roll their eyes or smirk when I talk about anything remotely spiritual. ‘You don’t look the spiritual type.’ Or ‘You’re a lot smarter than you look.’ Charming.

But in reflecting on my experiences I thought about the times when I ‘played down’ my image. Doing so in order to be liked and accepted. I’d wear less make-up or not wear that sparkly top because it would make me stand out from the crowd. Because if I stood out it would pee off my ‘friends’ who were already annoyed at the fact that I was slimmer than they were. Just recalling all of the ways that I ‘played down’ is mentally exhausting and I can feel a twinge of anxiety building up in my body. This must of have been how I felt at the time. Tbh I can’t remember. I can only guess that I got used to it in the end.

It wasn’t until I went deeper into my spiritual practice and completed my Angel Reiki master teacher course that I realised how much I’d ‘played down’ the real me. To the point that I had lost all sense of self. I hadn’t been living or being truly authentic at all. It was all a charade. Before my course came to an end I made a commitment to live authentically. But first I had a lot of forgiving to do.

Once I’d made my commitment I found that forgiveness came easily. For giving myself, my old friends, bosses and colleagues I was able to bury the person I used to be. I was able to walk the path of authenticity. A path that I strive to walk today.

I say strive because there are moments where the old me resurrects itself. Led by the ego she tries to step forward advising me that ‘playing down’ would be in my best interest. That ‘playing down’ will keep the peace: will make people accept me more. I know that she’s trying to protect me but I’d rather be accepted for the person I truly am not the person people would prefer me to be. However, sometimes my ego plays smart, cohersing me to go the other way and buy that new top (the one that I really don’t need or want) in order to piss off my haters. Either way, I know deep down that this isn’t the real me and I’m able to go beyond my ego to hear the voice of my Higher Self. Sadly, sometimes I don’t. But that’s okay, because I accept that we all fall off course sometimes. What’s important is that we are able to realign ourselves again.

What I’ve learnt is that I can be spiritual and cool. That how I look can mask or reveal my authenticity. If getting dressed up, wearing make-up and rocking a super sexy hairdo is what I want to do then that’s just perfect. It’s not so perfect if I’m hiding behind my glossiness/sexiness/coolness. It’s also not so perfect if I’m using it as a weapon against my haters. And it’s so not perfect if I’m playing down in order to fit in.

For me my clothes, hair and make-up are an expression of who I am. My image my change from day to day because I feel different from  day to day. And that is perfectly fine. I can still be spiritual and glamorous. Intelligent and sexy. Wise and cool. All this is perfect so long as I’m always authentically me.
Have you ever played down to suit others? What tips and advice do you have to share with others about how you overcame this? I’d love to hear your experiences and suggestions.